How to stop and adult from staring??!! (rephrase)

October 25, 2011

THIS IS MY PROBLEM.
This school cop, who by the way is like a foot taller than me and he is young and intimidating is always staring at me. no joke. i have caught him but since i don’t like staring back at people i turn away really easily. once me and my sister (who works in the school) were sitting in one of the benches outside and the cop guy comes in his police car and parks it right in front of us. have no idea why he did that but he stayed in the car for like a few minutes and then went inside the school building. Like in the lunch line (there is 2 lunch lines) if I go on 1 line he moves to that line when he sees me and when I go on the other line he moves to that one. When my friends and I sit down on a table he moves all the way from one side of the cafeteria to the other. I have noticed. Even outside when he is "patrolling" the area in a golf cart, i feel his stare.
I have not told my sister about this. I bet she won’t believe me. any suggestions?
By the way, if this helps.. I’m in Athletics. I’m a girl of course. And I am in High School. I’m just asking for ways to make this guy understand that I don’t like him, I never will and that he better stop it!
Any ways to make him stop staring? Thanks
The question before read "guy" but since I’m dealing with an "adult" I rephrased the Question.
@?-how is he gonna hide his feelings??
@?- you know? he sometimes wears sunglasses outside. when he is in the golf cart "patrolling" the area and staring at me.

Thanks to everyone who answered.

The most effective way would be to confront him. If you are one hundred percent sure and you tell him, he will stop. If that doesn’t work, talk to the school counselor or principal and tell them so that they can do something about the situation.

He kind of sounds like a freak… if you confront him… make sure there are people around or at least close by… I personally would go to the counselor first because I hate confrontation.

I disagree with confronting personally. If all were equal between the two parties involved, then maybe. But, considering he has a badge and is an intimidating adult, it opens the door to getting the situation more developed.

Tell your parents, tell the principal, keep it anonymous. Give them a chance to observe his behavior when he doesn’t know they’re watching. Otherwise, he’ll learn to hide his behavior.

RESPONSE: Feelings or behavior? The behavior I’m talking about is watching/following females around campus. It could be harmless, it might not be. At any rate, it’s unprofessional and exactly the kind of behavioral characteristics schools try to screen against in hiring.

If he knows his behavior might be watched, he’ll likely be more discrete. (i.e., not stare as long, through sunglasses, or from the corner of his eye) Then, reporting him might not do as much, because, what he’s doing might not be so obvious to someone investigating your initial report.

All I’m saying is you should give the administration a chance to observe what he’s doing before you tip him off. After they have their chance to correct the behavior, go to plan B, which is to confront with some assertive adults who can back you up. Otherwise, you run the risk of it being a he said, she said situation. Best of luck to you.

You need to be reporting this, exactly as you told everyone on here, to your teachers, guidance counselor and school principal.

It sounds like this guy (adult) has a bit of a crush on you, it could be harmless, but he should not be making any student uncomfortable, for any reason.

Please report this; you are in school to learn, not to be intimidated and made to feel uncomfortable by this guy.

Good luck, stay strong and have a good day.

give him a mean stare or like an annoyed look